Comments on: 500th post (or: math continues to be my nemesis)

By: Clint

Clint — Thu, 24 Mar 2011 12:01:11 +0000

@Sara – You are my soulmate and I loved you at first sight. :-) Also, the math doesn’t lie.

@RW – Obviously, there are several aspects of my goals that are going have me run up against church policy eventually, but that’s just the nature of things.

@O-Mo – Ha, you went through the list. Adorable (in a good way). You do bring up an interesting point in that I think I’m interpreted as more hard line on the “not threatened by my church participation” point than I actually am.

Let me try to articulate better: I don’t mind if someone has issues with the Church, even major issues (I might even agree), and I don’t even mind it being voiced and discussed. What I don’t want to deal with is personal criticism of my Church participation. So, for example:
Okay: It drives me nuts that the church does X.
Not okay: It drives me nuts that you go to in a church that does x.

The second will cause me to turn my head to the side a little, furrow my brow and say “um…excuse me?” Danger Will Robinson.

Of course, I’d much rather discuss this over dinner rather than blog comments. (I’d rather discuss other things over dinner even more.) One of these days…

By: O-Mo

O-Mo — Thu, 24 Mar 2011 06:03:15 +0000

I’ve had a similar thought process, though my numbers might be a little better than yours because I’m a little more generic.

I only made it to the 10,000 candidates. Lost me in the “threatened by your participation in the church.” Although we did discuss that: it’s a potential point of tension but not necessarily a deal-breaker. So I might squeak into the final 150 (if I can be counted as “reasonably”). As for making it into the final .75 (your joke about being 4′ didn’t register until just now, when I was going to make a similar joke but realized you’d beat me to it long ago), I’m a nerd, but you’re right: who knows about the interests/personality compatibility. Besides, I don’t know if I could be with someone who clearly has a more engaging narrative voice than me. But I haven’t ruled out the idea of being next-door neighbors who cook together ‘n stuff. One of these days, when we live in the same half of the country…

By: ReadingWildly

ReadingWildly — Wed, 23 Mar 2011 23:20:23 +0000

Great post, as almost always :) It’s OK if you delete my comment, since it’s none of my business, but I thought I’d take a shot. Long time reader, and trying to stay Mormon, and wondering if/how you’re personally working out (hopefully!) having family/relationship with someone of the same gender. I know I don’t think that prohibition is “true” (i.e., what God wants), but since the dudes in charge maintain that stance, and it’s required for temple worthiness, being in good standing, etc., well, do you give those parts up?

And thanks for the additional Kimball reference. I’d never heard *that* part.

By: Sara

Sara — Wed, 23 Mar 2011 23:09:59 +0000

That’s ridiculous. How did you go from ~150 to ~0.75? I just don’t understand your math there . . .
At any rate, I liked this post. I remember when I calculated my odds of finding someone once. I’ll admit that they are definitely better than yours, but they’re still pretty bleak — mostly because I want someone churchy, yet subversive and sort of snarky.

I also have those moments when I think, “Well. This is my life. It’s just me.” And it may be that way for a while, and I guess I’m finally okay with that. I just wish I had good friends in close proximity to make me feel better. :/ (I know, I know. Nobody forced me to move . . .)